It's Not Love, Actually

'The guide to modern womanhood in 2026' - Hannah Ferguson

Have you ever been made to feel less than just because you're single? Maybe you're tired of shrinking yourself and your needs? Or just sick of the low-effort, bar-on-the-floor dating culture?

Well, Dee Salmin definitely is . . . and after years of talking to people about their love lives on triple j's award-winning podcast The Hook Up, she's ready to share everything she's learnt in this part-memoir, part-manifesto on dating, sex and love.

From being single and thriving, to dating with boundaries, to finding love that's actually worth your energy, Dee blends research, expert insight and unapologetic truth-telling in this funny, furious and totally unfiltered guide.

In a world that keeps telling women to settle, It's Not Love, Actually will empower each of us to embrace the life we deserve, and whether single or partnered up, remind us that the happiest, hottest and healthiest relationship should always be the one we have with ourselves.

'It's Not Love, Actually belongs in the hands of anyone who wants love that is truly respectful, healthy and happy - which is all of us.' - Chanel Contos, activist and bestselling author