Break Up On Purpose
A Catalyst for Growth
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Publisher Description
An honest guide to breaking up and breaking through from the bestselling author of Single on Purpose, John Kim.
Every breakup is painful. Yet it is also a transformation. A breaking down and breaking through to a new version of who you are now, after you have severed ties. Nothing will change you like a broken heart. Yet every breakup is different.
John Kim, The Angry Therapist, has guided thousands of patients through breakups of every brutal, freeing, heartbreaking kind—and he’s lived through failed relationships and a divorce of his own. Through his journey as a therapist and as a partner and father, John has identified eight types of unique breakups—and can help anyone get through them:
The Big One Break-Up (the One you Compare All To)The Blindsided Break-UpThe “Flat Soda” (Mutual) Break-UpThe You Cheated/You Left Me for Someone Else Break-UpThe Soap Opera Break-UpThe Almost-Relationship BreakupThe Break Up That Never EndsThe D-word (Divorce)
Each type elicits different responses and requires different approaches to healing and starting over. Utilizing his signature “self-help in a shot glass” approach, Break Up on Purpose is a three-part guide to healing from heartbreak. You’ll find stories from John and his patients documenting every type of breakups, discover honest reflections about what really went down, and engage in Break Through Work to master the steps necessary to truly heal and grow.
Break Up on Purpose shows us how a breakup can be the ultimate tool for personal growth, where we discover bodies rewired, trauma processed, false beliefs dissolved, and new standards set.
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Therapist Kim (Single, On Purpose) provides a sensitive and approachable guide to bouncing back from heartbreak. Outlining eight types of breakups and the unique challenges each poses, he explains that a "first true love" is especially tough to get over because it "makes the deepest imprint" and is easily idealized ("The canvas of your heart was cleaner, so every brushstroke was seen and felt. And when you play back the relationship, you see and experience it through the eyes of that younger person"). Divorce, on the other hand, is socially stigmatized and requires detangling an intricate relationship in which children, finances, and friends are often shared. Stressing that readers should use breakups to fuel personal growth, Kim recommends that those trapped in an endless cycle of breaking up and getting back together identify common denominators to their failed relationships to avoid perpetuating harmful patterns in the future. Though some of Kim's cheerleading feels rote ("Your heart didn't break/It awakened"), he offers valuable, nuanced insights that are enriched by candid disclosures about his own breakups, including a divorce that "chopped me down at the knees." The result is a solid starting point for the lovelorn.
