Downside of Love: Surviving a Break-Up

Most of us have all gone through a break-up at least once in our lives. For those who haven’t, you aren't missing much. The hurt, the regret, the sadness and the feeling of failure are just some things that go along with breaking up a relationship.

Sometimes we see it coming and other times, it is dropped on us like a nuclear bomb. Well, not that drastic, but if you’re the one it’s dropped on, it certainly feels like that world is coming to an end!
Well, don’t fret! The good news is, your world is not coming to an end, in fact there have been millions of people over the centuries who have survived break-ups and moved on to new and better relationships! And guess what? You can too!

Maybe you got that call from your significant other that you “need to talk”, or your partner has cheated on you and fell in love with someone else or things just didn't work out well with you both and it was a mutual break-up. Even if it’s a mutual break-up on both your ends, the hurt and sad feelings are still there. Because, no matter what, you shared a part of your life with this person and feelings were there, even if they are not there now. You did care for each other at one time or another and maybe you still do. Every situation is different.

No matter what the reason for breaking up was and how your relationship ended, well or bad, the feelings after a break-up are pretty much the one and the same. There is always that feeling of sadness, loss, failure, regret, blame, etc… So many emotions to deal with!

And then there’s the feeling of if you are ever going to meet a new person and if you are ever going to fall in love again. Well, as the saying goes, “When you meet that one person that you spend the rest of your life with, you understand why all the other relationships didn't work out.” It is so true too!

I was in a relationship for a long time with someone. We had future plans together, talked about all the things we were going to do, and we thought we were soul mates and made for each other. Then one day, I got the message in an e-mail. It was a Dear Jane e-mail letter stating that he had fell out of love with me.