Future Sex
A New Kind of Free Love
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2.0 • 1 Rating
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- $12.99
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- $12.99
Publisher Description
Emily Witt is single and in her thirties. She has slept with most of her male friends. Most of her male friends have slept with most of her female friends. Sexual promiscuity is the norm. But up until a few years ago, she still envisioned her sexual experience achieving a sense of finality, 'like a monorail gliding to a stop at Epcot Center'. Like many people, she imagined herself disembarking, finding herself face-to-face with another human being, 'and there we would remain in our permanent station in life: the future'.
But, as we all know, things are more complicated than that. Love is rare and frequently unreciprocated. Sexual acquisitiveness is risky and can be hurtful. And generalizing about what women want or don't want or should want or should do seems to lead nowhere. Don't our temperaments, our hang-ups, and our histories define our lives as much as our gender?
In Future Sex, Witt captures the experiences of going to bars alone, online dating, and hooking up with strangers. After moving to San Francisco, she decides to say yes to everything and to find her own path. From public health clinics to cafe conversations about 'coregasms', she observes the subcultures she encounters with awry sense of humour, capturing them in all their strangeness, ridiculousness, and beauty. The result is an open-minded, honest account of the contemporary pursuit of connection and pleasure, and an inspiring new model of female sexuality - open, forgiving, and unafraid.
PUBLISHERS WEEKLY
Witt's debut provides an illuminating, hilarious account of sex and dating in the digital age, when hook-up culture and technology have vastly altered the romantic landscape. As a 30-something single woman, Witt explores her own sexual and romantic ambivalence as a symptom of society's expectations and challenges herself to abandon her comfort zone. She gamely participates in an orgasmic meditation session and a public BDSM performance, uses nitrous oxide at a group sex party, and guides readers down the rabbit hole of Chaturbate, a website where women on camera get paid to perform everything from naked yoga routines to ennui-laden existential monologues. Witt is a master at pithy observations, describing a bland man as having "the human neutrality of an Apple Store or IKEA" and the Northern California New Age atmosphere "where one intellectual stumble can turn you into a wild-eyed apostle of pet acupuncture or shadow healing." While discussing polyamory, Witt hits on the crux of her problem: being part of a reactionary post-sexual revolution generation culturally molded to push back against certain rules while maintaining the legitimacy of others, to embrace change but "not to tamper with the fundamental structures of the family and society." This is a vital conflict at the center of many women's lives, and Witt explores it with remarkable nuance, intelligence, and an admirable commitment to experimentation.
