Byron Katie's extremely simple programme called The Work was explored in her previous, hugely popular, book, Loving What Is. In it she explained how easy it is to be confused by the mental gymnastics we all play in our minds, and how looking closely at our thoughts - and whether they are true - can bring us a life of integrity and happiness.
Her second book questions everything we have been taught to think and do to find love and approval and shows how to make the transition to an effective, non-manipulative way of connecting with others. When you live your life focused on thoughts such as 'I need a man' or 'She doesn't care about me' you live in fear and end up lonely, stressed, heartbroken and depressed. However, when you start to explore The Work, you can begin to enquire into many of the unquestioned beliefs you have lived by, and can begin to change.
Through 'I Need Your Love - Is It True?' readers can explore what happens in their mind when they believe they need love, appreciation and approval. When they realise the truth of what's really going on inside them there is no doubt they can find real love and mutual understanding, expecially with the help of Byron Katie's wisdom and compassion.
Katie reintroduces the form of self-questioning called "The Work" that she originally presented in Loving What Is, but here she tackles relationships and what spoils them. According to Katie (writing with the help of Katz, who is also her agent), rather than seeking love and approval from others, you need to find them in yourself. What often blocks that love is one's perception of reality: "If you believe your stressful thoughts, your life is filled with stress. But if you question your thoughts, you come to love your life and everyone in it." "The Work" is central to the process of taking a judgmental thought such as "my partner is supposed to make me happy" and subjecting it to four powerful questions, such as "Is it true?" and "Who or what would I be without the thought?" Then Katie suggests turning the thought around and considering different options, such as making yourself happy and making your partner happy. Finally, she suggests ways to find love and acceptance in yourself. Katie's chatty style and her use of detailed dialogues and simple exercises will make many readers feel transformation is inevitable. (On sale Mar. 22)