With wit, wisdom and uncommon sense, Dr. Harriet Lerner gives readers the tools to solve problems and create joy, meaning and integrity in their relationships. Women will find Life Preservers (more than 40,000 copies sold in hardcover) to be an invaluable motivational guide that covers the landscape of work and creativity, anger and intimacy, friendship and marriage, children and parents, loss and betrayal, sexuality and health and much more.
With new insights and a results-oriented approach, Dr. Lerner answers women’s most frequently asked questions and offers the best advice for problems women face today:
I always pick the wrong guys.
Should I move in with him?
I can’t stand my boss.
Should I leave my marriage?
How can I recover from his affair?
Is my fantasy abnormal?
Is my therapy working?
I miss my mother.
I can’t believe I was fired.
This collection of letters and replies, some of which were previously published in the author's New Woman magazine column ("Harriet Lerner's Good Advice"), covers many issues. Lerner (The Dance of Deception) offers advice to women on love, friendship, marriage, parenting and sexual politics. Her warm, conversational style is engaging and meshes well with her commonsense approach to problem solving. Lerner advises women that many emotional problems between people spring from a lack of communication, and that differences must be faced before they can be solved. A self-described feminist, Lerner is pro-choice and believes that same-sex love is as "normal" as heterosexuality. Despite the format, which dictates short answers to broad questions, the author provides thoughtful comments geared to helping women surmount their difficulties. Author tour.