Sabotage; Recognize Commitment Phobia and Experience a Healthy Relationship

Provided answers to my confusion

This book helped me understand why I had stepped into the role of being a rescuer of a lost soul.

Very early in the relationship I saw the damaged child within and gave my all to help this person, (who beneath it all can be a truly wonderful human being), understand and release all the bonds that trapped him in a state of commitment phobia ... so he could have what he desperately sought ... unconditional love, trust, respect, loyalty, fidelity, happiness... in a lifelong relationship... in the end I had to accept that I couldn’t save him from the fears that trapped him ... he is a prisoner of his traumatic, violent and physically abusive childhood ... until he is ready to confront that fear and forgive his mother ... he will never be free.

Unfortunately for us, after many many years of pain, my broken heart and his betrayal of my trust, I chose to move on.

This book reinforced my decision to leave, without holding on to regret or guilt.