Summary of Harville Hendrix's Getting the Love You Want

Please note: This is a companion version & not the original book.

Sample Book Insights:

#1 When couples come to me for relationship therapy, I ask them how they met. Some people fall in love with such intensity, while others ease into a love relationship with a levelheaded friendship.

#2 The exchange theory of mate selection says that we select mates who are more or less our equals. We size each other up as coolly as business executives contemplating a merger, noting each other’s physical appeal, financial status, and social rank.

#3 The three theories of romantic attraction explain why we have such different experiences with love, and why we tend to only be attracted to a few people. They suggest that we select a mate who will enhance our self-esteem, and that we should be attracted to people who are similar to us.

#4 We all have a tendency to seek a partner with a specific set of positive and negative personality traits. We are compulsively searching for a mate with those traits, and if we don’t find them, we will seek them in someone new.