THE #1 SUNDAY TIMES BESTSELLER
'A wonderful book' Richard Osman
'So clear and true ... Helpful for all relationships in life' Nigella Lawson
'A fascinating read on the emotional baggage we all carry' Elizabeth Day
From the UK's favourite therapist, as seen on Channel 4's Grayson's Art Club.
How can we have better relationships?
In this Sunday Times bestseller, leading psychotherapist Philippa Perry reveals the vital do's and don'ts of relationships. This is a book for us all. Whether you are interested in understanding how your upbringing has shaped you, looking to handle your child's feelings or wishing to support your partner, you will find indispensable information and realistic tips in these pages. Philippa Perry's sane, sage and judgement-free advice is an essential resource on how to have the best possible relationships with the people who matter to you most.
'It gave me hope as a new parent' Babita Sharma
'This has genuinely had such a positive impact on my life and my relationship with my daughter' Josh Widdicombe
'She writes with an inquisitive elegance rarely found in parenting guides ... it is forgiving and persuasive' Hadley Freeman, the Guardian
'Philippa Perry is one of the wisest, most sane and secure people I've ever met' Decca Aitkenhead, Sunday Times Magazine
Healing from, and learning not to perpetuate, difficult upbringings is the linchpin of this practical, self-care centered parenting guide from psychotherapist Perry (How to Stay Sane). Her primary focus is on the preschool years, though her range extends to addressing both expectant parents and those with adult children. Throughout, Perry invites readers to examine their attitudes toward parenting, focusing on the effect of painful experiences from one's own childhood. She urges parents to approach their young offspring as people deserving of their respect, and with whom they will have a lifelong bond. Perry takes a "nudging" approach to bedtime routines and other learnable behaviors, through which children progress in small incremental steps. Her assertion that "all behavior is communication" applies not only to the young child, but to the parent as well; she asks readers to be aware of the messages they perpetuate as role models, to take responsibility for irksome behavior, and to establish an atmosphere of calm even when kids are misbehaving. Perry's kind but professional tone results in a helpful manual that will appeal to new parents who want an expert on board as they take the time to be reflective in their parenting.
Must read for first time parents
The further I get into my parenting journey the more I realise the way I was brought up impacts my parenting style. This book is great at giving real life examples and guidance on what to do and what not to do so you can break the cycle and be ok with being emotionally available to your children. I will definitely be re-reading this over the years to come!