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'I love Gretchen Rubin - she helps me understand both myself and the people around me' Cathy Rentzenbrink, 'Obliger' and author of The Last Act of Love
'If you want to change anything in your life you need Gretchen Rubin.' Viv Groskop 'Rebel'
OBLIGER? REBEL? QUESTIONER? UPHOLDER? Which one are you? Everyone falls into 1 of 4 personality types and knowing yours could make you happier and more successful. During her investigation to understand human nature, explored most recently in her bestselling Better Than Before, Gretchen Rubin realised that by asking the seemingly dry question 'How do I respond to expectations?' we gain life changing self-knowledge.
She discovered that based on their answer, people fit into Four Tendencies: Upholders, Questioners, Obligers, and Rebels. Our Tendency shapes every aspect of our behaviour, so using this framework allows us to make better decisions, meet deadlines, suffer less stress, and engage more effectively.
More than 800,000 people have taken her online quiz, and managers, doctors, teachers, spouses, and parents already use the framework to help people make significant, lasting change.
The Four Tendencies hold practical answers if you've ever thought...
- People can rely on me, but I can't rely on myself
- How can I help someone to follow good advice?
- People say I ask too many questions
- How do I work with someone who refuses to do what I ask - or who keeps telling me what to do?
With sharp insight, compelling research, and hilarious examples, The Four Tendencies will help you get happier, healthier, more productive, and more creative.
APPLE BOOKS REVIEW
We’d all like to make better decisions, meet deadlines, and collaborate more effectively but sometimes, it’s, well…hard. In this compelling study, Gretchen Rubin helps readers lead more productive lives by examining a framework of four personality types and how they deal with expectations. Her insightful research is interspersed with warm and very relatable anecdotes—you’ll be smiling as you recognize your colleagues, partners, and even yourself in her examples. Approachable advice and simple action items will leave you eager to share Rubin’s guidance with every Upholder, Obliger, Questioner, and Rebel you know.
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This is has been life changing for me. Can't recommend it more highly. Helped me finally work out how to attempt and complete frustrating tasks. Also helps with understanding difficult people in your life. Will buy another copy to give as a gift