The Wallet Trauma

Financial therapist Nathan Reed argues that most money problems are not math problems—they are emotional problems. In "The Wallet Trauma," Reed explores how childhood experiences, family narratives ("we are not the kind of people who have money"), and past financial shocks create a "money script" that dictates our adult behavior.



Reed explains why some people compulsively spend to soothe anxiety (retail therapy), while others hoard money out of a fear of scarcity, never enjoying their wealth. He introduces the concept of "Financial PTSD" for those who have lived through bankruptcy or poverty, showing how the brain's survival mode makes long-term planning impossible.



The book moves beyond budgeting spreadsheets to "Financial EMDR" and cognitive reframing exercises. Reed guides readers to identify their triggers and rewrite their internal narrative. "The Wallet Trauma" is for anyone who knows how to save money but can't seem to make themselves do it, proving that you have to heal the spender before you can fix the spending.