Heart of the Matter
How to Find Love, How to Make It Work
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- USD 13.99
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- USD 13.99
Descripción editorial
Why is it that love seems to come easily to some people and not to others?
In her first book, What's Holding You Back? Eight Critical Choices for Women's Success, Dr. Linda Austin explored the "psychological glass ceiling," the emotional barriers that keep women from achieving career success. This book is about a different kind of inner glass ceiling: the one that holds you back from the heights of great love. Dr. Austin is convinced that there's nothing fundamentally wrong with those who have difficulty finding and keeping love; BUT there may be specific behaviors that you engage in -- and specific behaviors that you do not engage in -- that have a profound impact on whether you find and keep love. The good news? Those behaviors can be learned, practiced, and eventually incorporated into your personality.
Dr. Austin wants you to know that small adjustments in your outlook and actions can have enormous impact on your ability to get the love you want. And in this perceptive, highly original book, she identifies the five core behaviors that determine your ability to have successful, loving relationships, as well as the patterns of behavior that can subtly sabotage those efforts.
The Core Behaviors
1. Engage with the World around You
2. Evaluate the Choices You Make for Love
3. Expand Your Safety Zone
4. Establish Emotional Independence
5. Evolve Consciously, Willfully, Healthily
Heart of the Matter shows how these five essential practices can deepen and transform your ability to give and receive love and loyalty. It explains how to make those small and specific changes that will have huge ripple effects on what happens to you in life -- and most important of all, it demonstrates how to identify and use your strengths so that you can move toward the life and love you want so much.
Heart of the Matter reflects Dr. Linda Austin's twenty-five years as a psychiatrist, assisting all sorts of people in their efforts to live more fully in the real world of loving human relationships. Pragmatic and sensible, this book is based on the conviction that each of us has the capacity to improve our ability to find and inspire love through specific behaviors. So whether you're currently in a relationship, or it's been so long since you've dated that you think "seeing someone" refers to a psychiatrist, Heart of the Matter can help you move toward that healthy, loving relationship you want -- and so richly deserve.
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Convinced each of us can improve our ability to find and inspire love by adopting specific behaviors, nationally syndicated radio host and lecturer Austin (What's Holding You Back?) offers readers, whether single or attached, a"concrete plan of action." Well-constructed lessons on expanding one's safety zone, becoming emotionally independent, evaluating who you choose, evolving and becoming more socially engaged are backed with real-life anecdotes, metaphors and more than 25 years of Austin's clinical experience as a psychiatrist. An emphasis on the need to take personal responsibility is seen in each chapter of this nicely paced, flowing format, loaded with constructive strategies such as suggestions for finding a mate, tips to"see through" the walls people build, ways to better engage with others and questions to ask to find one's deepest desires. Claiming that love is a basic human need for connection no one should cheat themselves out of, Austin relays the painful divorce she endured and the decision to try marriage again at the"sprightly age" of 48, bringing both credibility and compassion to her latest.