The Joy of Gay Sex
Fully Revised and Expanded Third Edition
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- $12.99
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- $12.99
Publisher Description
For a new century and a new generation of readers comes a fully revised and expanded edition of a classic guide to gay sex, love, and life.
Invaluable as a sex guide, a resource on building self-esteem, and a trusted aid for coming out of the closet, The Joy of Gay Sex covers the ins and outs of gay life alphabetically from "anus" to "wrestling." Noted psychologist Dr. Charles Silverstein has collaborated once again with critically acclaimed novelist Felice Picano on this third edition, updating every single entry and adding nearly thirty new entries. The authors provide positive and responsible advice on safe sex in all its varieties; on emotional and relationship-oriented issues such as long-term couples, loneliness, and growing older; and on scores of diverse topics ranging from spirituality to online dating. With fifty new line drawings by acclaimed illustrator Joseph Phillips, this landmark reference is a necessary addition to every gay man's bookshelf.
PUBLISHERS WEEKLY
Anal sex, Barebacking, Cruising--the ABCs of gay male sexuality get neatly presented here in an encyclopedic format with a savvy, knowledgeable attitude. A good number of the entries, though, seem unnecessary: perfunctory explanations of kissing ("an integral part of the entire experience of making love"), pornography ("the object is to turn you on") and phone sex ("use adjectives describing yourself and your favorite sexual scenes. If you don't know which words to use, watch a porn video and note those words that turn you on"), for example, will enlighten only the very inexperienced. Psychologist Silverstein and author-poet Picano make a notable attempt in this edition to define crucial elements of the"changing sociopolitical landscape of gay men's lives in the early twenty-first century" by including such topics as HIV"cocktail" treatments, bisexuality and transgenderism and the Internet's role in helping fetishists connect. But many entries continue to feel sanitized, despite the authors' decision to use sexual slang and expletives. Others need a dose of editorial Viagra to provide clued-in readers with the kind of candid, useful information they might be searching for. Entries addressing issues such as domestic violence, gay liberation and civil rights feel out of place in a manual dedicated to the machinations of sexuality complete with illustrations depicting everything from fisting to sex parties. Originally published in 1977, four years after the American Psychiatric Association reversed its decision labeling homosexuality a mental disorder, The Joy of Gay Sex continues to be a popular resource due to its"permissive tone about sex," an important feature and one that has been carefully retained in this revised edition. Readers may object to the title (which lacks the word"male"), the illustrations (which almost solely feature wiry, tattooed and hairless men) and some of the theories (the"daddy/son scene" may be enjoying increased popularity owing to a"greater need for good parenting"), but this is nevertheless a needed title.
Customer Reviews
For new gays
I never write reviews for anything but this book is a "godsend" in helping young gay men understand the world they are walking into. When reading the title it looks like somesort of how to guide and while thats a small part of that it is so much more. I loved it when i bought the hard copy back in 2010 at a Barnes and Noble and with discussing gay culture with others when it comes to sex it is such a good resource to have. I HIGHLY reccommend it to all that have never read it.