Brutally honest, often hilarious, hard-won lessons in learning to love and care for yourself from a young vice president at Comedy Central who was called “ahead of her time” by Jordan Peele
“Compelling, persuasive, and useful no matter where you are in your life.”—Chelsea Handler, #1 New York Times bestselling author of Life Will Be the Death of Me
“A bracingly honest, funny read . . . like Wild meets You Are a Badass.”—Adam Grant, #1 New York Times bestselling author of Give and Take, Originals, and Option B
By the time she was in her late twenties, Tara Schuster was a rising TV executive who had worked for The Daily Show with Jon Stewart and helped launch Key & Peele to viral superstardom. By all appearances, she had mastered being a grown-up. But beneath that veneer of success, she was a chronically anxious, self-medicating mess. No one knew that her road to adulthood had been paved with depression, anxiety, and shame, owing in large part to her minimally parented upbringing. She realized she’d hit rock bottom when she drunk-dialed her therapist pleading for help.
Buy Yourself the F*cking Lilies is the story of Tara’s path to re-parenting herself and becoming a “ninja of self-love.” Through simple, daily rituals, Tara transformed her mind, body, and relationships, and shows how to
• fake gratitude until you actually feel gratitude
• excavate your emotional wounds and heal them with kindness
• identify your self-limiting beliefs, kick them to the curb, and start living a life you choose
• silence your inner frenemy and shield yourself from self-criticism
• carve out time each morning to start your day empowered, inspired, and ready to rule
• create a life you truly, totally f*cking LOVE
This is the book Tara wished someone had given her and it is the book many of us desperately need: a candid, hysterical, addictively readable, practical guide to growing up (no matter where you are in life) and learning to love yourself in a non-throw-up-in-your-mouth-it’s-so-cheesy way.
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No matter where you’re at in life, it’s hard to feel successful when you’re hounded by anxiety and self-doubt. Just ask Tara Schuster. Despite her professional success, the playwright and TV executive was plagued by loneliness and negative thoughts stemming from her childhood. Schuster eventually discovered the tools to change her life, and her empathetic and quirky memoir-meets-self-help-guide is here to share them with you. As the book’s narrator, Schuster exudes warmth and candor, creating a comfortable space for us to work out some of our most deeply personal issues. The basic idea at the heart of her advice is re-parenting yourself—mentally giving yourself the unconditional love and support that may have been missing when you were growing up. But learning how to love yourself can be a pretty huge task, so Schuster breaks it down into smaller, practical exercises you can incorporate into your daily life—as well as some she admits are a little weird but work for her. (Okay, so maybe not everyone should pick Cleopatra as the role model to emulate in everything from fashion to workplace politics, but surely there’s someone you’d like to be more like.) Her genuine, down-to-earth stories—which may be too sweary to play while the kids are in the car—make Buy Yourself the F*cking Lilies a balm.