It's OK That You're Not OK: Meeting Grief and Loss in a Culture That Doesn't Understand (Unabridged)
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Publisher Description
A New Resource for Those Experiencing Loss
With It's OK That You're Not OK, Megan Devine offers a profound new approach to both the experience of grief and the way we help others who have endured tragedy. Having experienced grief from both sides - as both a therapist and as a woman who witnessed the accidental drowning of her beloved partner - Megan writes with deep insight about the unspoken truths of loss, love, and healing. She debunks the culturally prescribed goal of returning to a normal, "happy" life, replacing it with a far healthier middle path, one that invites us to build a life alongside grief rather than seeking to overcome it.
On this unabridged audio recording read by the author, Megan offers stories, research, life tips, and creative and mindfulness-based practices to guide us through an experience we all must face. With Megan's gentle but direct guidance, you'll learn:
Why well-meaning advice, therapy, and spiritual wisdom so often end up making it harder for people in grief
How challenging the myths of grief - doing away with stages, timetables, and unrealistic ideals about how grief should unfold - allows us to accept it as a mystery to be honored instead of a problem to solve
Practical guidance for managing stress, improving sleep, and decreasing anxiety without trying to "fix" your pain
Many people who have suffered a loss feel judged, dismissed, and misunderstood by a culture that wants to "solve" grief. Megan writes, "Grief no more needs a solution than love needs a solution." It's OK That You're Not OK is a book for grieving people, those who love them, and all those seeking to love themselves - and each other - better.
Customer Reviews
Meditations on a truer way to live: with both love and loss
If you came here seeking an audiobook, you may be disappointed. Far beyond any narrative or intellectual self-help book, this is a deep, personal, powerful – and often raw – meditation that cannot simply be listened to – it must be felt and weighed against all that we have been taught, all that we have been told to feel, about loss and grieving. I found myself frequently pausing the playback (often after every sentence; frequently after even a few words) to just sit in the insights and emotions that Megan so gracefully and courageously evokes. This book is a work of the heart, not of the mind. Megan speaks with equal parts heartfelt compassion for those experiencing grief, and bold passion for how society has warped and distorted grief into something shameful, denying love and loss their essential partnership. For those grieving, this is comfort and support; for all of us, it is a call into a truer, a more real way of living. If we replaced our study of “humanities” with teachings on how to be more human – how to love, how to suffer loss, and how to carry all that beauty with you – this revelation into life should be compulsory.
Just what I needed to hear
This book was exactly what I had been searching for. Someone to tell me that everything I had been experiencing and feeling is perfectly normal and okay. I only wish I’d found it sooner.