If the thought of entering into a high-conflict custody case terrifies you, you are not alone. Most partners who are in a relationship with a narcissist are too terrified to leave them for fear of losing custody of their children. Sadly, even when the narcissist is toxic and immoral, he stands a better chance of winning custody than the overwrought, emotionally terrorized victim that he had been abusing and controlling long before the relationship fell apart.
In 20 minutes, we will give you examples of high-conflict custody cases with narcissists who used sneaky and diabolical court tactics to win custody from a fit partner. If you walk into the court without having some knowledge of past cases and the narcissist’s tactics listed in audiobook one of this Divorce Court series, you will most likely be fighting a losing battle. Arm yourself with knowledge and power to gain a tactical advantage on the narcissist in court, and don’t become more of a victim to him than you already are.
This audiobook refers to the narcissist as a "he", but the narcissist in the relationship and divorce proceedings can also be a "she". The pronouns are interchangeable for the purposes of this audiobook.
Most narcissists won’t lift a finger while they are in a relationship to help with the child-rearing. However, don’t think this will stop the narcissist from filing for custody. The narcissist values money, status, popularity, power, and resources above all else. He doesn’t value family. He doesn’t want to pay you child support, plain and simple. This drive not to pay you a dime will make him do extraneous things that you never even thought were possible in the court game. Your head will be spinning at the levels he will stoop to in order to win and make you look like a grade-A loser.
The narcissist has the upper hand in pitting kids against the other parent in court. If the children saw the narcissist beating the other parent or pushing the other parent to tears, the children won’t want to be the next victims. It is in a child’s nature to separate the good and the bad in their parents, always preferring to see the good in both parents over seeing any of the bad. The child will want to get the approval from the parent who might punish them if the child is "bad" and thus this fear of punishment by an abusive parent often drives the children to side with the abuser rather than be his target.
Never be upset with your children for siding with the abuser. A child who sees their abused parent as weak and victimized will naturally want the victimized parent to do whatever they must to keep the peace.
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