Out of the Fog: Moving From Confusion to Clarity After Narcissistic Abuse Out of the Fog: Moving From Confusion to Clarity After Narcissistic Abuse

Out of the Fog: Moving From Confusion to Clarity After Narcissistic Abuse

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Publisher Description

The FOG is an acronym that stands for "Fear, Obligation, and Guilt." These three emotions are often at the core of manipulation, and are often how narcissists, sociopaths, and other types of emotional manipulators go about controlling their targets. 

However, this type of destructive manipulation isn't just limited to narcissists and sociopaths. 

There is no shortage of people with well-intended bad advice out there who unintentionally fall into the FOG as well, and push targets of abuse into keeping the relationship going. 

The FOG is one of the main reasons that people stay "stuck" in abusive relationships for so long, why they continue to get involved with abusive people, why they feel that they are the problem, and why they tend to feel that the abuse is somehow their fault. 

When a person is being manipulated they have a hard time figuring out who has the problem, what is normal, what is problematic, and if their wants, needs, and feelings are valid. The disasterous effects of being lost in the FOG are confusion, crazymaking, people pleasing, and an erosion of boundaries. 

What makes this well-intended bad advice so damaging is that, on the surface, it seems like good advice--especially if it's coming from people who seem to have our best interests in mind, such as friends, family, church members, support group members, or a therapist. 

Some examples of this well-intended bad advice that comes from other people is: 

"Who are you to judge?" "No one is perfect." "You need to forgive them." "She's your mother, you need to have a relationship with her...she's not getting any younger you know." "Commitment is forever." 

What can be so crazymaking for targets is that they are often getting two very different messages. On one hand, they are told that they need to work towards a solution, and on the other, they are told that need to leave a partner who lies, cheats, steals, hits, yells, or belittles them. 

This book compares and contrasts of these concepts so that targets of any type of manipulation and abuse can make a more empowered decision. 

Some of the concepts covered are: 

Who are You to Judge vs. Being Discerning

No One is Perfect vs. Tolerating Abuse

You Need to Forgive Them vs. Keeping Yourself Safe

A Parent vs. A Predator

Commitment vs. Codependency

Self-love vs. Selfishness

A Person Acting the Part vs. A Person Actually Changing

Gut Instincts vs. Hypervigilance

A Friend vs. Someone Being Friendly

Caring vs. Caretaking

Being in Love With Them vs. Being in Love With Who They Pretended to Be

Workable Behavior vs. Deal Breakers

Acceptance vs. Allowance

Going Through So Much Together vs. Being Put Through So Much By Them

Sincerity vs. Intensity

Healthy Bonding vs. Trauma Bonding

Insincere Remorse vs. Sincere Remorse

Reacting vs. Responding

...and many more.

GENRE
Self-Development
NARRATOR
DM
Dana Morningstar
LANGUAGE
EN
English
LENGTH
08:58
hr min
RELEASED
2019
February 24
PUBLISHER
Morningstar Media
SIZE
448
MB

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