The Gaslight Effect: How to Spot and Survive the Hidden Manipulation Others Use to Control Your Life (Unabridged)
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4.0 • 6 Ratings
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Publisher Description
In this groundbreaking guide, the prominent therapist Dr. Robin Stern shows how the Gaslight Effect works, how you can decide which relationships can be saved and which you have to walk away from—and how to gasproof your life so you'll avoid gaslighting relationship.
Your husband crosses the line in his flirtations with another woman at a dinner party. When you confront him, he asks you to stop being insecure and controlling. After a long argument, you apologize for giving him a hard time.
Your mother belittles your clothes, your job, and your boyfriend. But instead of fighting back, you wonder if your mother is right and figure that a mature person should be able to take a little criticism.
If you think things like this can’t happen to you, think again. Gaslighting is an insidious form of emotional abuse and manipulation that is difficult to recognize and even harder to break free from.
Are you being gaslighted? Check for these telltale signs:
1) Does your opinion of yourself change according to approval or disapproval from your spouse?
2) When your boss praises you, do you feel as if you could conquer the world?
3) Do you dread having small things go wrong at home—buying the wrong brand of toothpaste, not having dinner ready on time, a mistaken appointment written on the calendar?
4) Do you have trouble making simple decisions and constantly second guess yourself?
5) Do you frequently make excuses for your partner's behavior to your family and friends?
6) Do you feel hopeless and joyless?
Includes a bonus PDF of appendices from the book.
Customer Reviews
Played it in the background
When I was searching for books that will help me recover from toxic relationships there really isn't a lot of options. I definitely wished that I could of read it sooner, but I didn't even learn about the term until it was too late. The concept of "gaslight tango" was probably the most helpful piece of information in this book. It helped me got out of my victim mentality which gave me power in any situation of being put down.
The content is very down to earth, or in another word quite shallow. I can't remember how much of it was repetitive, the whole book could of be shortened and save me a lot of time. And by the end of the book I am almost getting sick of the term "gaslighting" because how much it's being overused ironically in a book about gaslighting.
But overall I wish more people understand what the author is trying to convey in this book, I don't think it's worth being super inverted in this book, but I think it's a great audio book to listen to in the background.