Adopting Eldar: Joy, Tragedy and Red Tape

At its simplest, this is the story of an adoption. Simple stops there.

This is a book that takes you to Europes highest mountain, to Moscow in chaos, to the streets and valleys of Bulgaria, and the palaces of Vienna, all part of the unimaginable tangle that begins when a 13-year old Russian sends a fax to America. Anyone who has been involved with adoption, or has contemplated adoption, will feel the twists and turns, the emotional peaks and valleys. Normally, international adoptions involve infants, who in effect, start an entirely new life before they are old enough to remember anything about their pre-adoption days. On the other hand, a 13-year old:

Is already formed, has a culture and a language (which isnt yours)

Has parents who have raised himso why would they let him go? He still loves his birth parents, and they have raised him well. So, what is going on?

In this case, has had more than his fair-share of tragedy, dislocation and trauma, and is in for a lot more before the book is done

The story truly has all the elements of a suspense novel, and it teaches you never to take anything for granted, never to give up, and never to think that anything is hopeless. There is deep, deep sadness in this book, as well as the miracle of two families fusing into one. There is a lot of laughter too, and many, many wonderful characters, some of whom could have stepped out of the pages of Dickens. Furthermore, what happened nextwell that is even more remarkable. But, that is another story.