All My Children actress Jill Larson moved mountains as a single mother to adopt her daughter from China. George Fadok, a former Navy commander, grappled with “changing the rules” eighteen years after placing his daughter in a closed adoption. Angela Paxton, Texas state senator and an adoptee, never thought she would ever meet her birthmom, but when she did, it changed her life.
Embarking on an adoption journey can be daunting, but now you are not alone! This collection of true, beautiful accounts, including Larson’s, Fadok’s, and Paxton’s, takes an honest look at the process, the struggles, and the undeniable joy that comes with adoption. With insights from all three adoption triad viewpoints, Adopting Hope shares a wealth of lessons learned and tips for every person contemplating an adoption journey.
How to have the courage to adoptHow to decide on an open vs. a closed adoptionHow to handle a foreign adoptionHow to survive the agonizing wait to become parentsHow to tell your adopted child “the story”How to make your adopted child feel lovedHow to negotiate a relationship with your child’s birth parentsHow to help your child work through feelings of loneliness or rejectionHow to dispel negative attitudes you will encounter about adoptionAnd so much more, including suggestions from birthparents and adoptees!
From Lorri Antosz Benson, author of To Have and Not to Hold, this heartfelt compilation is ultimately a message of hope, love, and destiny as each family discovers the truth that a child doesn't need to be blood to be truly yours.
Benson follows her 2016 memoir about placing her daughter for adoption, To Have and Not to Hold, with a collection of over three dozen personal narratives about adoption from birth parents, adoptive parents, and adoptees. The book is intended to encourage adoptive parents to allow relationships between adoptees and their biological parents. The stories from birth and adoptive parents typically take a gentle, retrospective tone, sharing a sense of profound gratitude even through difficulties, and often touching on Christian themes such as a view of adoption matches as God's plan and delicately expressed anti-abortion sentiment. A few stories of international adoption show a more complicated side to the process, as in the case of adopting older children who may have been mistreated. The most varied experiences are recounted by the adoptees, all adults now, whose stories focus on the sometimes rewarding but sometimes devastating process of searching for their birth parents; their context that of an earlier generation's closed adoptions may seem less relevant in today's climate of open adoption and readily available information online. Despite the title, Benson mostly eschews practical advice, along with difficult questions, in favor of offering potential adopters emotional comfort through the reassuring words of others.