Introduction In the world of adoption there has been a dearth of information and research specifically about the role of adoptive fathers, although this is beginning to change (Baumann, 1999; Newstone, 2000; Gilligan, 2000; Steel et al, 2007, 2008). Adoptive fathers and male foster carers are starting to write about their experiences and tell their stories about the rewards and challenges of bringing up a non-genetically related child (May, 2005). But still little has been written about what it feels like for adoptive fathers when their son or daughter decides to seek information about their origins, and search and make contact with birth family members. For example, is their role as a father undermined? Do they feel anxious about the outcome? Do their reactions and feelings differ significantly in any way from those of their partners or spouses?