Healthy relationships require trust, intimacy, effective communication, and understanding. However, if you suffer from chronic anxiety you may have trouble dealing with everyday conflicts and tensions that can arise in relationships. No matter how committed you are, anxiety can leave you feeling distanced from your partner. Fortunately, there are steps you can take to overcome the anxiety-fueled reactions that keep you from achieving true closeness in your relationship.
Written by two experts on anxiety disorders, Anxious in Love offers easy-to-use techniques for calming anxieties and strengthening communication in your relationship. With this book, you will learn to stay centered when faced with conflict, understand your partner’s perspective, and become more independent. By changing the way you react to triggers and stress, you will be able to focus on enjoying time with the one you love, without anxiety getting in the way.
Here's a self-help book for the truly anxious, not nail-biters but those whose level of fear or anxiety is debilitating and "disproportionate to the situation." Psychologists Daitch and Lorberbaum provide a brief overview of anxiety disorders, ranging from phobias to obsessive compulsive disorders to post-traumatic stress disorders often associated with combat but also linked to violent crimes and the aftermath of "a loved one's death." First, the authors attempt to help readers understand their reactions through helpful self-assessment quizzes, then offer corresponding exercises to reduce anxiety. Next, the authors offer ways to understand what each partner can do to prevent or reduce anxiety and increase compassion. For example, to one partner a flooded kitchen is an inconvenience, but to the partner with OCD, it's an incomprehensible challenge. While there's plenty of therapy-speak in the book (validating your partner, practicing "attunement"), the authors provide realistic and empathetic approaches, and easy-to-follow advice for anxiety-laden individuals and their partners. Daitch and Lorberbaum emphasize that "practice makes permanent," and couples willing to make such a commitment will benefit from this book.