Dementia Widow

The medical system took twelve years to reluctantly agree with Fay that her husband was sliding into dementia. Even after he died, three years later, people questioned the diagnosis. This is a book about what happens behind that veil of invisibility.

Dementia Widow also exposes, with courage and candor, the poison that seeps in as a healthy reciprocal marriage becomes inexplicably hierarchical. Only when dementia is recognized as the villain does the relationship morph to offer the loving caregiving that enables a good final chapter.

When the final loss came, Fay felt relief, followed quickly by guilt that she wasn’t grieving ‘properly’, and resentment that the years of invisible grief were unrecognized. She brazenly reclaimed her life and wrote this book to retrace the years and find insights that Fay offers as a guide to others who are caregiving for a loved one with dementia, and those who support them.