For men, and the women who love them, this is a highly controversial book on how to get - and be - a good husband. This book will appeal to the countless women who resent that their husbands never listen and that they have to nag in order to get them to do anything around the house; who feel like their husbands are always pawing at them to have sex; and who want more from their marriage. It will appeal to men who want to have more sex, less nagging, and wives who adore them. In short, GOOD HUSBAND, GREAT MARRIAGE is the book for everyone.
GOOD HUSBAND, GREAT MARRIAGE is a hard-hitting, no-nonsense guidebook for men and women to help them fix their marriages. Robert Alter's central, controversial argument: the man is primarily responsible for the marital problems. Alter says to women: "You are right to want what you want from him." He says to men: "Stop thinking it's your wife's fault, and transform yourself into the good husband you know you have in you. " In 50 chapters, Alter describes the problem areas men face and what actions they can take to fix them. The chapters include: "How to Know When You're Being a Man as Opposed to When You're Being an A*****e," "How to Talk to Her," and "Your Anger: Cut the S**t." Alter's approach is straightforward and logical; he speaks to men in a language they understand. In addition, sections of the book will be geared for women where Alter will give advice to women on what they can do.
Longtime couples therapist Alter stops short of promising women who ask their husbands to read his guide that "he'll read it, and like it, and get it, and change, and then things'll get a lot better in your marriage," knowing from his 22 years as a counselor that his intended audience-boneheaded husbands-won't change if they don't want to, but those who do could do much worse than to take Alter's advice. Alter holds husbands accountable for many problems that plague marriages and relates to his male clients in a tough manner that sometimes angers them. The most useful guidance is a suggested "Move" at the end of each chapter, an overture husbands can make to improve at everything from listening to their wives, appreciating their wives' anger and understanding their own sexuality (read: "Please touch it."). Though some "Moves" are less helpful than others (he simply recommends husbands with addictions to alcohol, drugs, or pornography "break all your consuming relationships with substances and behaviors"), most are small, yet meaningful, and worth giving a shot before looking for a divorce attorney.
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Basically a romance novel
The book is unrealistic at best. Completely marketed to women in order to validate their feelings. A disappointing read and offered very little realistic advice.
For the men this book is written from a feminist point of view. For the women, men will not relate at all, 600+ pages of garbage!