Hard To Do

From Jane Austen to Taylor Swift, a look at the surprising politics of romantic love and its dissolution. Whatever the underlying motives — be they love, financial security, or mere masochism ? the fact is that getting involved in a romantic partnership is emotionally, morally, and even politically fraught.

In Hard To Do, Kelli María Korducki turns a Marxist lens on the relatively short history of romantic partnership, tracing how the socio-economic dynamics between men and women have transformed the ways women conceive of domestic partnership. With perceptive, reported insights on the ways marriage and divorce are legislated, the rituals of twentieth-century courtship, and contemporary practices for calling it off, Korducki reveals that, for all women, choosing to end a relationship is a radical action with very limited cultural precedent.

'In a culture that demands we couple up, that we pursue romantic love above all other forms, Korducki boldly steps forward, clear eyed and able to cut through the sentimentality and the fantasy of love to see the real economic and sociological demands that lie just underneath. This book reminds you it is possible, and good, to dissent, or at least understand why the pressure to find love is driving you crazy. As it turns out, sometimes the most radical act is the act of saying no.' – Jessa Crispin