People Pleaser
Breaking Free from the Burden of Imaginary Expectations
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Publisher Description
Are you a people pleaser? Can you even begin to measure how the approval of others has shaped your heart and mind? Your faith and relationships? Your habits and identity? In People Pleaser, New York Times bestselling author Jinger Vuolo shares her personal journey of constantly seeking approval from others and how she found her true identity.
From childhood to early adulthood, Jinger Duggar Vuolo followed the expectations of others, never taking the time to discover who she truly was. It wasn't until she asked herself the question, "Who am I?" that she realized she was a people pleaser. This realization led her on a journey of self-discovery and ultimately, to rely on God for her approval and sense of self-worth.
Through her faith and reliance on God, Jinger began to break free from the need for approval and discover true freedom. This book is a guide for anyone struggling with people-pleasing tendencies and seeking to find their true identity and purpose in life. Learn how to:
discover the beauty of community and how we were made to enjoy others,identify sin and how it can hinder your ability to be in community with one another,diagnose yourself with ruthless honesty but without judgement, andunderstand who you are in God's eyes.
Jinger hopes this book will inspire others to embark on a similar journey towards freedom.
PUBLISHERS WEEKLY
In her vulnerable follow-up to Becoming Free Indeed, bestseller Vuolo recounts how she began to change the approval-seeking mindset she internalized during her upbringing on the TV series 19 Kids and Counting. Raised in a "controlling, man-centered, and legalistic" religious system where her ability to follow rules was "at the core of how I saw myself," the author recalls "doing everything I knew to avoid any kind of confrontation or failure... to be the most ‘perfect' I could be." Soon after she got married, those efforts grew stifling, and she decided to break free of "the fear of rejection, imperfection, and criticism." Describing how God's acceptance helped her serve others from a "place of genuine joy," she explores how readers can own their flaws in order to build more genuine relationships, engage in productive conflict, and surround themselves with people who don't judge them for their weaknesses. Candidly admitting that her struggle to abandon approval-seeking is ongoing ("I've come a long way but, my friend, I've got a long way to go"), she makes particularly salient points about how people-pleasing exacerbates loneliness—"You can be all alone in the midst of a crowd when you're more worried about messing up than you are about making progress"—and how it undercuts faith in a God who "created you to... thrive in healthy community." This inspires.
