The fear of being judged by others in social activities is a common human experience, especially during childhood. But when the fear becomes all-consuming, it can disrupt daily functioning and the development of social competency. Raising the Shy Child: A Parent’s Guide to Social Anxiety takes a fresh look at social anxiety disorder, coupling the latest in research trends with evidence-based strategies and real-world stories to untangle the complexities of this disorder. Presented in an easy-to-read, conversational style, the book uses a combination of real-world examples and stories from adults and children with social anxiety disorder to show parents and educators how to help children find a path through their fear and into social competence. With specific strategies to address school refusal, bullying, and identity issues, Raising the Shy Child is a must-read resource for anyone dedicated to enhancing the lives of children.
Addressing the parents of children with social anxiety disorder (SAD), Fonseca (Quiet Kids) provides a well-organized, powerful collection of strategies drawn from the current literature and her experience as a school psychologist. Fonseca carefully separates SAD from similar-looking personality traits such as shyness, introversion, or fear of unfamiliar situations. She also examines how SAD interacts with factors like giftedness, depression, parental anxiety, autism, and social communication disorder. Diagnostic worksheets for parents require thoughtful consideration of topics such as parenting styles, household expectations, and children's mindsets and behaviors, supplemented with awareness tasks like behavioral journaling. Worksheets for kids help them participate in documenting and understanding their own difficulties. These tools, together with carefully chosen case studies, will help parents understand their child's concerns, find the right home supports, and decide when to seek more formal help from schools or professionals. Fonseca assumes a high level of intelligence on the part of readers, never speaking down to parents or children. Parents who have seen educators minimize their child's struggles as normal shyness, felt herded into one-size-fits-all solutions, or struggled to comprehend apparently nonsensical behavior from bright children will find this comprehensive resource grounding and practical.