The phenomenal #1 bestselling author who revolutionized our understanding of male-female relations returns to the territory he intimately knows to help couples get past stress and find the loving relationship they want
Once upon a time, Venusians and Martians functioned in separate worlds. But today they each struggle in the same hectic, career-oriented environment. Exhausted by the time they get home, he’s eager to tune out and relax, while she wants to share the events of her day. The result: anger and resentment as Venus and Mars collide. In this positive, practical guide, John Gray explains the different ways men and women are affected by stress, demonstrates how each approach their problems, and offers a clear, easy-to-understand program to bridge the gap and help them achieve a loving, nurturing relationship.
The author of the wildly successful Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus now posits that men and women (Venus) naturally react differently to everyday stress, which in turn causes more stress in their relationships. When Gray says "naturally," he means hormones. When a man, after a stressful day, wants to veg out in front of the TV, he is not rejecting his wife. Rather, he is replenishing his depleted testosterone. And when a woman wants to talk about her day, she is not being a nag. It's just her way of replenishing her cuddle hormone, oxytocin. According to Gray, the fact that women have more body fat means they burn more energy than men, which makes their minds create endless to-do lists. Gray does not consider cultural differences figuring in the stress mix. If anything, Gray seems to come down hard or focus more on women, perhaps because women are his most likely audience. Thus, he discusses "Why Women Never Forget a Quarrel"; and "Making a Man Happier Is Easier than You Think" (in which he uses a devoted dog as an example). It's simplistic but easy to digest and no doubt headed for the bestseller lists.