HEARTRATED

What do you actually do when your heart is under pressure?

HEARTRATED asks about the things you have actually done in love, when someone you care about let you down, pulled away, asked too much of you or told you something you did not want to hear, and it leaves out the answer you wish you had given.

Inside are seventy real-life situations, each with its own photograph and seven honest ways to respond. Answer them over a week, count your marks, and you will find which of the seven Hearts you are: the Runner, the Anchor, the Sovereign, the Restorer, the Volcano, the Vault or the Catalyst.

Then the book goes further.
• Your Heart: how you love, what you need, and how you grow
• Your Heartprint: the seven forces underneath your Heart
• The Five Gaps: the distance between what you feel and what you do
• When Hearts Meet in Love: all 28 pairings, so the two of you can read yourselves together
• Where your Heart came from: temperament, what you were taught, and what wounded you
• Love in full: attachment, conflict, intimacy, money and family, raising children, betrayal and repair, and when to get help

Made for couples. The book includes two answer cards, one for you and one for your partner, so you can both take the test and read your pairing side by side.

Easy to read. The book is set in large 18-point type, and everything you need is on paper, so you can take the test at home without any app or internet connection.

Written by occupational therapist Devine Mafa, whose work in cognitive rehabilitation taught him to pay close attention to what people actually do. HEARTRATED brings together the best of what researchers have learned about love, from attachment to long-term studies of married couples, and turns it into something you can use at your own kitchen table.

If you have ever wondered why you keep reacting the same way, or why the person you love does what they do, start here. Find your Heart.