Relationship Wisdom: 7 Keys to Healthy Discernment

This power packed book provides keys to choosing companions, or helps you identify the skills needed to rebuild relationships. Close companions affect your future, and either encourage you in your hopes and dreams or hinder you. Gain 7 keys to aid you in determining godly and healthy relationships for a prosperous life.
Key #1-Look at Character Above All Else
Key #2-Know Your Heart Condition/Filter and What Your Definition of Normal Looks Like
Key #3-Don’t Ignore Red Flags
Key #4-Do they Consider You before Fulfilling their Own Needs?
Key #5-Is Your Voice Respected?
Key #6-Are The Healthy Behaviors In Relationships Followed?
Key #7-Do Your Relationships Encourage and Equip You for Works of Service?
What does healthy look like? Too many of you have not had a good example of how healthy love presents in daily life. What attracts you to another person? When choosing companions, be cautious to look for signs of reoccurring self-focus. Don’t be captivated by looks, money, or charm. Learn the 16 character traits to identify in your companions. The character of both friends and your spouse will be the key to a happy and firm foundation for lasting relationship.
To choose healthy relationships you must understand how to discern. You need to realize your own heart condition, wounds, and triggers. What you have experienced and what messages you have received create a filter through which you see the world.
All information sifts through that filter before it registers as your perception. The response to any of these mental strongholds could form faulty expectations that cause you to settle in your relationships when you see unhealthy behaviors in yourself and your companions.
You will gain valuable insight to recognize how to evaluate the people that you meet and choose your closest companions wisely. Many of you have been trained to ignore the very signs that warn you, with big red flags. Too many people confuse grace, mercy, and forgiveness with a lack of boundaries and consequences. God is a God of both. It is vitally important to understand how to determine red flags and apply boundaries and confront issues.
Healthy relationships communicate, validate one another, and resolve conflicts. This means your feelings and experiences will be acknowledged as real and you will be responded to with courtesy and respect. Don’t put a band-aid on gangrene and just try to fix the presenting problems, get to the root of the problem, and heal it so that all things will grow and bloom from there.
Remember that healthy life and relationship skills come from healthy thinking which produces your speech patterns and behaviors. When you take captive your thoughts, you can recognize your own wounds, discern in every area, identify red flags, be selfless, respect the voice of those closest to you, operate in all of the 20 Healthy Behaviors in Relationships, and speak life. Then you can be an encouragement to those you love and fulfill all of God’s good plans for you.