Forgive Yes, But How‪?‬

“Father, I want to forgive; I really do. But, how do I go about it? Where do I start?” These are some of the questions in many broken and hurting Christians who tried hard to forgive, but failed. They love Christ. They know His teachings about love and forgiveness, and they genuinely want to forgive. But, however they try to make the decision to forgive, they just cannot get rid of that inner force of anger and resentment.

So sharply do priests and pastors often exhort people to forgive, and yet they hardly help them with guidance on how to forgive? This is a gap that this books seeks to fill. It seeks to help the reader to become aware of their superiority over anger, to recognise their capacity to forgive, and to learn how to forgive. It presents practical guides and steps to follow in the process of forgiveness. It also highlights various hindrances to forgiveness and how to overcome them. The guidelines it provides, if fully assimilated, will also help the reader towards self-awareness and growth, and in the ability to control any emotion successfully.

Fr Thulani Joel Skhosana is the priest of the Catholic Church, under the diocese of Polokwane, Limpopo province, South Africa. Born in Soweto, raised in Mpumalanga and Limpopo subsequently, he was ordained a priest on 16 December 2006. After more than half a decade of active ministry in Our Lady Mediatrix Parish (Bela-Bela), he went to Rome for further studies, where he obtained a Licentiate in Sacred Scripture, at the Pontifical Biblical Institute (PBI).

He presently works as the academic dean, lecturer and formator at St John Vianney Seminary in Waterkloof (Pretoria), South Africa.