Is He My Type?: The Question That Changes Everything: Why We Choose the Wrong Men and How to Recognize the Right One

"Is he my type?"

It seems like such a simple question, yet it has the power to shape some of the biggest decisions of our lives. We ask it after a meaningful conversation, after a first date, after a smile that lingers in our thoughts, or after meeting someone who makes our heart beat a little faster. Sometimes we ask it after a painful breakup, searching for answers about how we fell so deeply for someone who could never truly love us the way we deserved. We believe that if we can simply find "our type," we'll finally find lasting love.

Most of us think we know exactly what our type is. We describe him with certainty. He's confident, ambitious, intelligent, funny, adventurous, emotionally strong, or charming. We convince ourselves that these qualities explain why we're attracted to certain men. But what if our type isn't really about who he is? What if it's about who we've unconsciously become? What if the men who attract us most are not the ones who are best for us, but the ones who feel emotionally familiar?