Can I Love‪?‬

“Can I love?” I often find myself asking this question. This seemingly simple question isn’t as straightforward for me because of my disability.

Having muscular dystrophy means that it has become progressively impossible for me to do many of the things I could previously do. Knowing that I would eventually lose most of my physical abilities and independence, I didn’t know if I should even embark on a journey to find romantic love.

While I am perfectly able to love someone emotionally, what physical intimacy and long-term commitment can I offer? Is it just enough to love someone with all my heart, and only my heart, without the physical and practical aspects of a relationship? Will I become a burden to my partner instead?

Being a hopeless romantic, my desire for romantic love compelled me to start on this journey. I had many crushes and met many failures that hurt me deeply. Eventually, my perseverance paid off and I entered a relationship. Short-lived it may be, it was one of the best experiences in my life – never have I felt so empowered before.

Through this book, I want to share my journey to find love. May it open your heart and mind to the matter of love for persons with disabilities.