Summary of Jessica Fern's Polysecure

Please note: This is a companion version & not the original book.

Sample Book Insights:

#1 Healthy attachment is a deep bond and an enduring emotional closeness that connects people to one another. It is a result of the infant’s attachment system being activated when they feel fear, distress, or discomfort, which prompts them to turn towards their caretakers or use proximity-seeking behaviors.

#2 The attachment system is activated when a child feels afraid or threatened, and they seek closeness with an attachment figure. If their needs are met, they can go back to playing or exploring. But if their needs are not met, they may adapt by either deactivating or hyperactivating their attachment needs.

#3 When a child has a secure attachment style, they have generally experienced a warm and supportive family environment. They feel supported and learn to regulate their positive and negative emotional arousal, which helps lower stress hormones and increase oxytocin.

#4 The interactions we had with our caregivers as children create internal working models of how we see ourselves and our partners, and these models determine how we approach relationships as adults. As adults, we seek physical contact with our partners, and we turn to them as a safe haven when we need it.