Why We Fight
A Transformative Road Map to Healing Conflict in Any Relationship
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A no-nonsense, step-by-step guide to troubleshooting conflict from couples counsellor Kim Polinder - the relationship coach who has amassed millions of views online for her accessible, actionable advice.
Arguments are inevitable, but they don't have to be destructive.
Inspired by her years as a tech engineer, Kim Polinder provides a systemic, root-cause approach to understanding triggers, navigating emotions and turning recurring fights into moments of connection.
You'll discover:
· How to take an empathy-first approach: slow down, check in and lay the emotional groundwork for successful solutions
· How to recognise your triggers: it's never really about the dishes. Unravel the core beliefs and attachment styles underlying the fights
· How to troubleshoot arguments in real time: regulate your emotions, communicate effectively and reframe old patterns
· A simple, effective flowchart for conflict resolution: an easy-to-follow system for breaking complex emotional ruptures into clear, doable steps for repair
A game-changing approach for her clients and hundreds of thousands of followers, Kim Polinder teaches you to navigate conflict through accessible case studies, practical exercises and guided questions.
Don't remain stuck in endless argument loops with your partner. With clarity and insight, Why We Fight shows you how to disrupt the pattern, resolve the issue and move forward with empathy, love and understanding.
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Relationship coach and children's book author Polinder (Zara's Adventure in the Stars) makes her adult debut with this pragmatic guide to navigating arguments more productively. She contends that fighting triggers past trauma, causing people to assume entrenched emotional roles they've inhabited in the past rather than being their "true selves." To fight more constructively, readers should work to better understand their core injuries, which often stem from unresolved childhood trauma or flawed parental relationship models. During the argument, they can draw on that knowledge to more easily identify and express their deep-seated needs, which are often obscured by the disagreement's ostensible focus, as well as empathize with their partner and work to reach a compromise. Following the fight, readers can reflect on the argument and, if necessary, reshape expectations for the relationship. Polinder draws on her former career as an engineer for a methodical approach that centers on digging up root causes, and she provides such actionable tools as a step-by-step flowchart for working through conflicts, complete with troubleshooting questions for surmounting common sticking points. Readers who feel stuck in repetitive cycles of conflict with a partner, friend, or family member will be especially enlightened.
