Five Steps to Sexual Happiness for Christian Women

This is a book about sex.  This is not a book about dirty sex, kinky sex or extramarital sex.  This is a book for married couples, ideally who are in healthy and committed relationships.  Call me old-fashioned, but that’s who I am and that’s who I write for-- no offense to those who make other choices.  I have geared this book primarily toward women because, let’s be honest, most men have little interest in buying a book about sex written by a woman.  That, and most men I know seem to feel like the only thing that needs improvement in their sex lives is frequency.  Writing this book for women should help them with that, but more importantly, I hope to ensure that both of you have the best possible experience.

This subject had taken on some particular significance in my life when I was in college.  Regrettably, I was one of the first of my friends to garner any experience in the area and, due to my ability to be quite candid about it, became the resident expert on the subject.  Before I knew it, I was being asked for advice often, and even sometimes by people I hardly knew.  When I went through a significant change of values in my early twenties and realized that sex should belong to married couples only, I found that the requests for advice all but disappeared.  I attribute this mostly to the fact that I rarely discuss my past transgressions with new friends and now that I am married, I try to remain appropriately private about my sex life.  But the more bits and pieces of conversations I have with people, particularly engaged or newly married couples, the more I realize the depth of the need for a candid, gospel-based discussion about sex.  

It isn’t always easy for people to talk about sex.  That is why I wanted to create a resource for those who might not feel comfortable discussing it with others face to face.  In this book, I will share with you everything I know about sex as it relates to the gospel.  I hope to describe to you in detail exactly what to expect from your sex life, no matter how long you have been married, but I hope to do so in a way that will not be intimidating or excessively explicit.  It is my sincere prayer that you will use the lessons of this book to bring greater joy to your marriage and, in doing so, your life.