I Didn't Know I Needed This
The New Rules for Flirting, Feeling, and Finding Yourself
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- 20,99 €
Publisher Description
**A Publisher's Weekly Bestseller**
From TikTok star Eli Rallo, an irreverent, laugh-out-loud funny, and searingly honest take on modern dating and romance with tips, tricks, and survival-guide style rules.
I Didn’t Know I Needed This is the dose of confidence every girl needs to live their life on their own terms. Eli Rallo is a social media superstar, a Carrie Bradshaw for the TikTok age, a true romantic at heart, and the best friend every young woman wishes she had. As someone who prides herself in feeling fully and deeply, Eli is on the ride with you, kissing the frogs, sending (and deleting) the risky DMs, climbing down frat house gutters, making the friends you’ll have for life, all while finding love and falling in love with yourself and learning that everything will be alright. In this earnest and vulnerable look at what it’s really like to date as a young woman in the modern world of dating apps, rotating rosters, and social media snafus, Eli gives her rules for each stage of the game—tried and true tricks of the trade.
I Didn't Know I Needed This follows the natural lifecycle of dating, starting with being single, flirting, and navigating the apps to going on dates, having sex, falling in love, and managing relationships, to finally dealing with heartbreak, finding closure, prioritizing your friends, and honoring your life. Discover the rules that have worked for her, and garnered her more than a half million TikTok followers:
prep for a first date like an athlete before a big gametry a person out in different settings before committing to themplan the second date while you’re out on the firstfind your perfect “eff me sweater”flirt with your partner, no matter how long you’ve been togethergive yourself a set mourning period to wallow after a breakup, and then stick to italways (always!) communicate your needs, wants, desires, and boundariesfind little ways to love your life and treat yourself
With touching stories of her own adventures and mishaps, Eli helps you navigate dating in a way that’s frank, honest, funny, and relatable, giving the advice that you didn’t even know you needed.
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TikTokker Rallo debuts with a witty guide to modern dating that bills itself as less "Dear Abby" and more "like your audacious older sister sitting on your bed with a handle of tequila and a box of tissues and a bottle of lube" and dispensing candid "if you like him, just tell him" advice. Mining her own dating history, from a painful on-and-off college relationship with a man who told her, "via a Google Doc, that I was the best sex he ever had," to the "Bumble boyfriend" who "proved I could love again," Rallo breaks down each stage of dating. She recalls "get to know who I was as though I were a stranger" after moving to New York City for grad school and counsels readers to "treat yourself right first.... The rest of it will all fall into place." Elsewhere, she reviews a string of breakups and recommends spending enough time processing heartbreak and remembering "you can get to the other side, because all around the world, every single day, people do." Despite a somewhat slippery structure—numerous romantic trials bleed into one another, along with bits of motivation and the occasional dating rule ("The most attractive thing you can be is confident. GO THRIVE")—Rallo's assured voice and solid counsel carries this through. Those able to see the humor in heartache will be gratified.
