I Do Until I Don't: A Surgeon's Story of Divorce and Healing (Unabridged)

I have to deal with recurring flashbacks of my divorce as kind of a mental trial or flaw in my character. Hearing that, you might think this disqualifies me from giving comments about what a healthy marriage should look like. "Sounds like that guy’s not yet healed, so what does he have offer me?”

But, I do, in fact. I have hard-earned special insight into healthy marriages. I learned it the way we learned about healthy bodies in medical school: We studied diseased bodies.

I got my insight by going through and reflecting extensively on my divorce. I’m your lab rat. Hear me roar! The pain of my divorce gives me a framework to apply to my condition and to also benefit you if you find yourself slipping into what looks like it might be a divorce. Backing up a step further, you can benefit from my story before you even get married.