The first book specifically for daughters suffering from the emotional abuse of selfish, self-involved mothers, Will I Ever Be Good Enough? provides the expert assistance you need in order to overcome this debilitating history and reclaim your life for yourself. Drawing on over two decades of experience as a therapist specializing in women's psychology and health, psychotherapist Dr. Karyl McBride helps you recognize the widespread effects of this maternal emotional abuse and guides you as you create an individualized program for self-protection, resolution, and complete recovery.
Narcissistic mothers teach their daughters that love is not unconditional, that it is given only when they behave in accordance with maternal expectations and whims. As adults, these daughters have difficulty overcoming feelings of inadequacy, disappointment, emotional emptiness, and sadness. They may also have a fear of abandonment that leads them to form unhealthy romantic relationships, as well as a tendency to perfectionism and unrelenting self-criticism or to self-sabotage and frustration. Dr. McBride's step-by-step program will enable you to:
-1) Recognize your own experience with maternal narcissism and its effects on all aspects of your life
-2) Discover how you have internalized verbal and nonverbal messages from your mother and how these have translated into overachievement or self-sabotage
-3) Construct a personalized program to take control of your life and enhance your sense of self, establishing healthy boundaries with your mother and breaking the legacy of abuse
Warm and sympathetic, Dr. McBride brings a profound level of authority to Will I Ever Be Good Enough? that encourages and inspires you as it aids your recovery.
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Life changing book
My wife was previously married to a very violent man, when we got together she started to have problems with her family, notably her mum. After 4 years of us trying to co-operate with her mum, but never being able to please her enough, I took a job 370 miles away , forsaking our healthy family and friendships, as her mum was turning up at the house. After an upsetting incident between the two of us, I looked up something random that my wife said and found a passage from this book which I read to her. It opened up the door to ALL the answers. After reading this book together twice, working through the harrowing but simple exercises, we have identified and put healthy boundaries in with her mum, and the wider family. She has healed the childhood pain, rescued that inner child which is still attacked, and has fully become her own person. This book is a real must read/hear. It is a brilliant resource to use when the boundaries become weakend. Just please read with an open mind, the early concepts are hard to imagine to be true, but the sequential therapy; recognition of the problem, processing the hurt and healing the wounds, will turn your life around. Give it a try :)
Not very useful for children abused by narcissictic mothers
This book does not relate well to children abused by their narcissistic mothers. It is for less severe difficulties. In some ways it is useful to hear a description of the bahaviour of these women and the effects of that behaviour. I particularly disagree with the her point of forgiving the narcissist. The discussion that children of narcissistic women will treat their children in a bad way is also not helpful and could have been phrased in a far better way.