Addicted to Others: Your Guide to Transformation

Why is it so hard to truly be ourselves?
Why do we define our worth through approval, attention, or connection?
And why do we so often confuse love with adaptation, connection with dependency, and belonging with self-denial?

Addicted to Others is not an ordinary self-help book. It is an invitation, a confrontation-and a guide. It delves deep into the hidden mechanisms through which we lose ourselves in relationships: emotionally, mentally, physically, financially. It uncovers how we try to fill an inner void through others-and why that never works. And it offers something rare: a path out.

Dr. Elias Rubenstein, known for his spiritually grounded and practical works, does not stand outside of life offering psychological theories-he walks you through your own story from within. With clear language, profound insight, and radical honesty, he shows why we are not victims of our relationships but co-creators-and how, through awareness, reflection, and action, we can reclaim our freedom.

What is this book about?
This book is a roadmap to inner liberation. It exposes the subtle ways many people live under external control without realizing it. It sheds light on emotional dependency, guilt patterns, role-playing behavior, inner emptiness, the constant craving for approval-and all the mental excuses we use to protect and simultaneously betray our true selves. Yet this book doesn’t stop at analysis. It calls for transformation. Not through pressure, but through truth. Not through abstract concepts, but through direct realization.

A new definition of connection-free from fear, free from dependency.

This book shows that true closeness begins not where two people need each other-but where they no longer lose themselves. It’s not about living in a perfect relationship. It’s about leading yourself-and building relationships from that wholeness that do not entangle but empower.