Attached
Are you Anxious, Avoidant or Secure? How the science of adult attachment can help you find – and keep – love
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4.5 • 236 Ratings
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- £4.99
Publisher Description
Three million copies sold.
An insightful look at the science behind love, Attached offers readers a road map for building stronger, more fulfilling connections.
‘Over a decade after its publication, one book on dating has people firmly in its grip’ – The New York Times
Is there a science to love? In this groundbreaking book, psychiatrist and neuroscientist Amir Levine and psychologist Rachel S. F. Heller reveal how an understanding of attachment theory – the most advanced relationship science in existence today – can help us find and sustain love.
Pioneered by psychologist John Bowlby in the 1950s, the field of attachment explains that each of us behaves in relationships in one of three distinct ways:
Anxious people are often preoccupied with their relationships and tend to worry about their partner’s ability to love them back.Avoidant people equate intimacy with a loss of independence and constantly try to minimize closeness.Secure people feel comfortable with intimacy and are usually warm and loving.
With fascinating psychological insight, quizzes and case studies, Dr Amir Levine and Rachel Heller help you understand the three attachment styles, identify your own and recognize the styles of others so that you can find compatible partners or improve your existing relationship.
PUBLISHERS WEEKLY
According to psychiatrist and neuroscientist Levine and social psychologist Heller, one s adult romantic partnerships have patterns similar to those one has as a child with one s parents. Our individual attachment styles are thus, they conclude, hardwired into our brains. Focusing on three main attachment styles (secure, anxious, and avoidant), the authors explain the biological facts behind our relationship needs, teach readers how to identify their own and loved ones attachment styles, and warn of the emotional price of connecting with someone with drastically different intimacy needs. Teaching readers communication skills to breach these differences, the authors stress that people have very different capacities for intimacy, and that partners must ensure each other s emotional well-being. Chock-full of tips, questionnaires, and case studies, this is a solidly researched and intriguing approach to the perennial trials of looking for love in all the right places and improving existing relationships.
Customer Reviews
This book made me reevaluate what I was expecting from my relationship
I know it’s easy to read a few words and claim “THIS CHANGED MY LIFE” but unironically I really do believe this has changed my outlook on my current relationship and what I should be expecting, and what I put out from my own. I really do recommend giving this a read.
An amazing read
A great read, informative and completely changed my outlook to my relationships.
Perfect book to understand attachment style
Easy to read book that goes through each attachment style, how they manifest in real life and how they can be changed. It would have been a 5/5 rating however as someone that suffers from anxious avoidant attachment - there was limited guidance on how to change this. Not the authors fault as it is a difficult attachment style but it did leave you feeling a little helpless