Bonded

Do you check your phone a dozen times after a great date? Pull away the moment someone gets close? Feel like you and your partner keep having the same fight, or slowly drifting apart?

Your attachment system is behind more of your love life than you think. Bonded explains what researchers now know about adult attachment and turns it into steps you can use this week, whether you're dating, getting back out there after a breakup, or working to keep a long relationship strong.

Most books sort people into fixed types. Bonded uses the current two-dial model of attachment, anxiety and avoidance, so you can see exactly where you sit, how you got there and how far you can move. The research is clear: attachment shifts over time, and adults can build what psychologists call earned security.

Inside you'll learn how to:

• Find your place on the attachment map with a simple self-check
• Calm an anxious alarm with Pause, Name, Choose and a simple texting plan
• Understand avoidance fairly, and ease into closeness one step at a time
• Read a new partner in the first eight weeks, including mixed signals and slow fades
• Ask for what you need early, with ready-to-use scripts
• Handle the first fight, take breaks the right way and repair after conflict
• Stay connected as a couple with a 20-minute weekly check-in and support that fits your partner
• Come through ghosting or a breakup and know when you're ready to date again
• Follow a 30-day plan with tracks for anxious, avoidant, fearful and secure readers, couples and people healing from a breakup

Every chapter ends with a practical exercise and key takeaways, plus a quick-reference section and glossary. Clear, warm and grounded in research, Bonded helps you choose well, love calmly and build a relationship that feels safe.