The pioneering experts behind the bestselling The Whole-Brain Child now explore the ultimate child-raising challenge: discipline.
A breakfast bowl gets thrown across the kitchen, splattering milk and cereal all over the wall. Or one of your kids threatens a younger sibling. Or you get a call from the principal’s office for the third time this month. What do you do?
No-Drama Discipline provides an effective, compassionate road map for dealing with such tantrums, tensions, and tears — without causing a scene. Based on recent discoveries about the brain that give us deep insights into the children we care for, what they need, and how to discipline them in ways that foster optimal development, this book offers a ‘relational’ approach that builds on children’s innate desire to please their parents and get along well with others.
Complete with candid stories and playful illustrations that bring the authors’ suggestions to life, No-Drama Discipline presents clear messages in a practical and inviting format. Using these techniques, you can discipline your children in a way that’s high on relationship-building, high on respect, and low on drama and conflict. As a result, your life as a parent will be easier, and your parenting will become more effective. And more importantly, you’ll create connections in your children’s brains to build emotional and social skills that will serve them now and throughout their entire life — all while strengthening your relationship with them.
In their latest parenting book, UCLA professor of psychiatry Siegel and psychotherapist Bryson (coauthors of The Whole-Brain Child) explore ways of disciplining kids with consideration for their developmental stage. According to the authors, discipline can serve as a teaching tool rather than as a punishment (this, they point out, hearkens back the word's original meaning). Parents who are prone to yelling or being reactive around their kids will be relieved to find that there are alternatives to threats, tears, and raised voices. Siegel and Bryson suggest that understanding a child's brain, capabilities, and point of view is crucial to dealing with misbehavior. They explain that it's important to connect first and then redirect the child, emphasizing that a parent's long-term goal to help children build better behavioral and relationship skills for the long-term is more effective than short-term consequences or punishments. Citing research that shows how the brain changes with experiences, they guide readers to help build and nourish their child's "upstairs" brain (responsible for sound decision making, empathy, and morality). With lucid, engaging prose accompanied by cartoon illustrations, Siegel and Bryson help parents teach and communicate more effectively. Illus. throughout.