Relationship woes are complex and destructive, and often deeply hurtful. Over years of research, clinical psychologist Dr Michelle Brody has found that the same 12 fights play out time and time again between couples, such as the ‘Partner Improvement’ Fight, the ‘You Don’t Care About Me’ Fight, and the ‘Difficult Relatives’ Fight. By addressing these areas, couples can immediately grasp the destructive cycles in their relationships.
But advice and strategies alone aren't enough to help couples solve their relationship problems: they need to see with their own eyes why they are trapped in damaging cycles of behaviour in order to find a way back to each other. Dr Brody has already used her illustrations to help thousands of couples in her clinics, and this unique book presents her psychological findings through playful yet pertinent illustrations.
It’s a one-of-a-kind relationship manual – fresh, concise, easy to use, and results oriented.
Brody, a clinical psychologist who specializes in treating relational conflict, urges conflict-prone couples to look at the big picture, especially when fights occur where each partner feels like a victim. Her new book explains how to stop fights before they even begin. Brody combines prudent advice with simple, cartoon-like illustrations to help couples see the patterns in their disagreements. She further shows how often hurt feelings translate into aggressive and cruel statements (which she describes as a function of our instinctual fight-or-flight behavior), perpetuating and escalating disagreements. In response, she suggests getting to the individual core values feeling appreciated, loved, and wanted. Spanning 12 common causes for fights, including nagging, house work, money, and sex, the book provides tools for opening lines of communication and establishing happy, healthy, and mutually supportive relationships. The result is a helpful and concise manual for anyone in a relationship, as the issues addressed are as common as they are destructive. Brody handles the subject well, and her skill and experience in her field shows outright.