Why Does He Do That?
Inside the Minds of Angry and Controlling Men
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4.5 • 35 Ratings
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- £9.49
Publisher Description
In this groundbreaking bestseller, Lundy Bancroft—a counselor who specializes in working with abusive men—uses his knowledge about how abusers think to help women recognize when they are being controlled or devalued, and to find ways to get free of an abusive relationship.
He says he loves you. So...why does he do that?
You’ve asked yourself this question again and again. Now you have the chance to see inside the minds of angry and controlling men—and change your life. In Why Does He Do That? you will learn about:
• The early warning signs of abuse
• The nature of abusive thinking
• Myths about abusers
• Ten abusive personality types
• The role of drugs and alcohol
• What you can fix, and what you can’t
• And how to get out of an abusive relationship safely
“This is without a doubt the most informative and useful book yet written on the subject of abusive men. Women who are armed with the insights found in these pages will be on the road to recovering control of their lives.”—Jay G. Silverman, Ph.D., Director, Violence Prevention Programs, Harvard School of Public Health
Customer Reviews
My life is changed
This book changed my life. I realised by reading this that abuse is rooted in attitudes and grows from entitlement, and self centredness. ABUSE IS ADAPTABLE - someone who abuses you can always escalate, deescalate, change tactics completely as power dynamics change. If you stopped reacting or if they were no longer able to do one form of abuse, it would simply change into something else. In society it’s not considered acceptable to beat a woman down to the ground anymore and many men fear the consequences so they resort to other forms of abuse which are much more acceptable. Once you are free, you will never unsee it. As long as these attitudes in men remain, they will find any way to hurt and abuse us.
Every woman should read
Unfortunately not only did this book make me realise my ex was abusive - it made me realise a large majority of men have abusive ideologies. You start to realise many of your interactions with men are problematic. Lundy is a lifesaver.
Thank you
This book gave me so much insight and allowed me to see things I could not see for myself, despite something in my gut telling me something was wrong. It gave me the strength to assert my rights and leave, and protected me from a future that could arguably have become very depressing, complicated, and arguably dangerous. I feel so much more freedom already. Thank you Lundy, for your important and powerful work, and how you’ve helped me in my life.