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Is This Really What Women Want?

Don’t expect a magical formula or any kind of efficient knowledge on what women want in this book.

This is more of a guide on how to better yourself in general, with the hopes that by doing so you might end up “attracting” a few women as collateral damage.

The advice is what you see in all men’s blogs and the internet in general. Become more confident! More agreeable! Learn martial arts, learn dancing, make many friends, sleep more, hit the gym, clip your nails, take showers, comb your hair, get a job, don’t smell bad, have willpower, adopt a dog (they even suggest to move to a new country to get laid!)

You could really sum up all the info offered in this book in a 5-6 page bullet points presentation, but still you will be left clueless about what to do and how to effectively be vulnerable, honest, express yourself, spark sexual tension, escalate, and make that inner change when it comes to women.

There is some good information in terms of biological factors and female attraction, but that’s all there is to it, and this is also information that is widely available on the net anyway (perhaps I feel that way because I am educated on the subject and see it through my own perspective, still this was very basic level evolution-type knowledge for me).

Unfortunately, what is missing is the real essence of “what women want” (ironically, the title of the book). You might do all the things that the books suggests, be good looking, successful, with all types of proof yet still have zero luck when it comes to romance, because other core issues are not addressed (which I won’t discuss, but will suggest readings at the end).

I have read hundreds of books on the subject (I am also a psychology grad) and this one is definitely not the “definitive one-of-a kind book” on the subject that no other book like this existed before, as they claim at the beginning of the book. This is just another one of those books that suggest they cook science with female attraction, but it really is just scratching the surface when it comes to women, so as to appeal to the masses and the really “bad-case / uninformed” men out there. The kind that still lives in their moms’ basement and are oblivious to even their own needs, let alone women needs.

There are many really good books investigating the female psyche and teach you how to become a better man and effectively attract women without caring much about others’ perception of you, contrary to what this book seems to imply at certain points (you basically are not enough if you don’t do all those crazy things like MMA-dancing).

If you want real and in-depth advice on women and attraction, a few choices are:
“Models: Attracting Women Through Honesty” by Mark Manson.
“Mode One: Let Women Know What you are Really Thinking” by Alan Roger Currie.
“The Rational Male” by Rollo Tomassi.
“The Way of the Superior Man” by David Deida.
“No More Mr. Nice Guy” by Dr. Robert Glover.