No need to Fight

For as long as there have been families, parent-child relationships have been the cause for happiness and, perhaps as often, a source of stress, distress and grief. The beauty of fusion frequently disintegrates into the calamity of fission as childhood gives way to adolescence. Adolescence too often transforms the home environment into a war zone. Today’s social realities make this situation more troubling, and the environment even more toxic, than in times past.


Is this scenario inescapable? Dr. Nephtaly Dorzilme’s Need to Fight answers from cover to cover with a resounding “No!” Dr. Dorzilme writes from the conviction that adolescence, far from being a pathological social anomaly, engages both parent and child in a normal continuum within the human development process. Individuation, through which children distinguish and separate themselves from the family of their birth, is a necessary step in preparing to visualize and establish new families of their own.


Adolescence, then, is part of the preparation to leave the old and begin the new. No Need to Fight is a thorough, well-informed and highly successful attempt to explain the transformation, and often sadly, the breakdown, in the parent-adolescent arrangement. No Need to Fight also gives parents the tools to establish or re-establish harmonious, God-ordained relationships with their adolescents.


Dr. Dorzilme brings to this process the fruits of a distinguished career as pastor, teacher and counselor and of the associated training, from the baccalaureate to the doctoral levels. He has also been the father of two adolescent children. And he was, of course, an adolescent himself. Given that background and his profound interest in the subject, readers of No Need to Fight are assured of a great intellectual treat and a rich spiritual blessing. Enjoy.