The Parent You Have

The ultimate guide to going low-contact, no-contact, and setting clear boundaries with a difficult or distant parent, by the popular therapist known as @sitwithwhit

Is estrangement a dirty word? Not anymore. For too long, we were told “blood is thicker than water” and “family comes first.” But a growing number of adults are taking agency, prioritizing their own healing, and deciding what a healthy family relationship is – and what they will no longer tolerate.

In this supportive, realistic, and authoritative guide, you’ll discover the insights and tools to make your relationship with problematic parents work. Topics include:

Processing the past, and whether to ask for apologiesWhat to say when a parent rejects your attempts to repairManaging the grief, guilt, and isolation that often come with estrangementBreaking the cycle of generational harm, to show up better for your family of choice
Filled with illuminating stories, actionable advice, and ready-to-use scripts for even the trickiest scenarios, this is the roadmap for processing the past and prioritizing your own healing – to create the nourishing family life you deserve.