I Do (I Think)
Conversations About Modern Marriage
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"Marriage norms in today’s society are rapidly changing and it can be hard to keep up. Allison Raskin’s book unpacks the questions and uncertainties around marriage that so many of us have... a must-read for anyone and everyone that may be curious about the intricacies of modern marriage.” –Nick Viall, TV Personality, Host of The Viall Files, and Bestselling Author
From Just Between Us cohost and bestselling author Allison Raskin comes a witty, incisive take on modern marriage and how a new generation can navigate its uncertainties and questions.
Marriage rates may be on the decline, but that doesn’t mean marriage is disappearing from society. In fact, as modern relationship norms and structures continue to evolve, the public discourse about marriage has never been louder—or more conflicted. Divorce rates, the appeal of cohabitation, seemingly infinite options for future partners, the patriarchal roots of marriage and gender roles, and economic uncertainty are just a few factors that leave a new generation of single and dating adults wondering. What does marriage even look like now? Why do people still do it? And, most importantly, is it “for me”?
With conversational wit and compassion, bestselling author Allison Raskin draws on new research, interviews with licensed experts, and the stories of real-life couples to break down the many pieces of today’s “marriage conversation”—and to make the leap of faith a little less scary for Gen Z and millennial adults like herself. What emerges is a thoughtful investigation into our cultural assumptions about commitment, compatibility, divorce, meaningful partnership, the future of marriage—and what it really means to join your bank accounts.
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Novelist Raskin (Overthinking About You) takes a scrupulous look at what it means to get married at a time when fewer social and economic factors than ever necessitate it. Drawing on interviews with couples, divorce lawyers, financial advisers, sociologists, and therapists, she traces how marriage shifted from a primarily economic and social agreement to a vehicle for personal happiness in the 1960s and 1970s, as increases in women's financial freedom and the popularity of divorce drove down marriage rates. Yet marriage still retains many of its traditional, patriarchal structures, as evidenced by the 70%–80% of heterosexual women who still change their last names and the unequal distribution of labor in the home (for heterosexual women, getting married "tends to be associated with more unpaid labor"). Elsewhere, Raskin considers the merits of partnered cohabitation versus marriage (married couples may "mentally and emotionally depend on their partners more," though marriages are also harder to leave) and the value of premarital counseling. She assumes a refreshingly agnostic attitude throughout, neither crusading for or against marriage and encouraging those who decide to tie to the knot to "build your own definition" of partnership, for which she includes useful question prompts. Couples debating whether to take the leap would do well to check this out. <em]>Oct.)
