Please Yourself

We are all people-pleasers in one way or another – even those who deny it.

Whether at work, home or in our relationships, we all know how it feels to want people to like us. The problem comes when we give up our own needs along the way.

In this life-changing book, psychotherapist Emma Reed Turrell explains the different ‘types’ of people-pleaser and provides practical, reassuring advice on how to better understand – and stop – people-pleasing behaviour when it starts to affect your own needs.

Please Yourself will help you care for others in the right way – and ultimately, help you take better care of yourself.

Reviews

'Utterly brilliant. Emma Reed-Turrell is a wonderful writer, a compassionate guide and the therapist we all long for. Every page of Please Yourself contains a truth bomb; every sentence a golden nugget of wisdom. If you're a people-pleaser (and you probably are) this book will change your life. My only regret is that it didn't exist earlier as it would have saved me – and everyone else – a whole lot of bother’ Elizabeth Day, author of How to Fail

‘Even if you don’t think of yourself as a people pleaser, it turns out you’ve been pleasing everyone your entire life! Prepare for some home truths and some life changing advice’ Cosmopolitan

‘As a recovering people-pleaser who often falls back into its tempting trap, I absolutely loved this book. Informative, entertaining and empowering’ Emma Gannon, author of Olive

‘A helpful, reassuring book that will give you insight into discovering your no is even more valuable than your yes. And in discovering it you'll find you like yourself more and others will too…’ Julia Samuel, author of This Too Shall Pass

‘Realistic, non-judgemental and genuinely helpful: your one way ticket to growing a backbone. It took me decades to learn why I people pleased and how to stop. Thanks to Emma Reed Turrell, you don’t need to wait that long’ Sam Baker, author of The Shift

About the author

Emma Reed Turrell grew up in Portsmouth and went on to read English at Cambridge University. Following ten years working in business, in sales and marketing roles, Emma returned to her earlier passion for psychology and mental health. That took her on the path to becoming a counsellor. She now runs a busy private practice alongside writing and training. Emma lives in Winchester with her husband, two children and golden retriever.